My friend Felice recently met a guy through friends. They hit it off that night, exchanged numbers and made plans to go out again.
And then the phone tag began:
He called and left a voicemail.
She worked late, so called back the next day and left a voicemail.
Then there was a lag of a few days.
When they finally connected, he apologized, saying it had been a crazy week. They made plans to go out, but Felice couldn't shake the feeling that maybe he should've gotten back to her sooner despite the craziness.
Around the same time, my friend Tori started going out with a guy she met on the Internet. He was nice and they always had a good time when they went out. But Tori had a problem with the way conversations went on the phone/via text in between dates.
She would text.
He would text back.
She would text.
He wouldn't respond. And wouldn't respond. Until a few days later, finally, when he did.
These two examples have gotten me thinking about Response Times, and how important they can be.
My friends Felice and Tori prefer to hear back from guys right away, and I can't say I disagree. To me, it's an easy way to show you're attentive and interested.
But I've bounced this off a couple of guy friends who say this isn't necessarily true. Guys are different. They don't like talking on the phone. And they don't put as much stock in text messages, the guys say.
Because if this is true, it's a major disconnect in the way men and women think.
I'd love to hear other people's thoughts, so weigh in.
Ten bucks says the women respond more quickly. :o)
PS) Think I've finally settled in enough to pronounce a routine for blogging -- and just in time for a new New Year's Resolution! See you here on Tuesdays and Thursdays from here on out. Have a great weekend everybody!